Respect and honor are the only greatest things any human being will ever want in his/her life.
Ever thought about why we all want to earn money or why do we want to take up an expensive trip to vegas?
The answer is stuck deep down in your conscious but you never dug deep in it, maybe while reading this you figured it out but if not let me tell you,
Because we want people to talk about us, we want them to think that we are amazing, rich, powerful, and are living a sophisticated and long life.
Anybody in this world who you see hustling to become successful that means he is hustling for honor and respect.
Sadly this perspective of life is wrong because you are not thinking right.
If you think that taking an expensive trip or buying the latest car can make people respect you then you are totally wrong.
To command respect, this mentality is a stone under your neck which is pulling you more down without even you realizing it.
But to simplify things here are the best techniques to make people respect you and honor you because you deserve it.
Knowledge will give you power, but character respect.
Why respect is So cravingly important
Human science for respect is pretty interesting because it’s totally based on real-life experiences. Respect can change your attitude toward your day, month, or should I say Life.
Respect comes from your life perspectives and how you react to things in general.
Once a great man said “React to situations and people consciously because your reaction is what people perceive about you”
and that is absolutely true. Respecting, caring, loving, etc are very strong emotions in a normal person’s life because these are the sole priority things/emotions for which a person lives.
And if these are missing from one’s life then that person considers his/her life a misery but if these feelings/emotions are present in his/her life then life becomes beautiful.
Among all the emotions Respect (feeling important) is the one we crave the most and most of the time we can’t do anything about it and this kills the proactiveness of our life.
“Never respect men merely for their riches, but rather for their philanthropy; we do not value the sun for its height, but for its use.”
Are you Respectable?
Respect is a big word for somebody who works day and night cleaning or shit, Like a casual worker or a house helper, They deserve respect just like anybody else but what if tell you
that you don’t deserve that- what will it feel like? that hurts doesn’t it, Tell me what are things in yourself which people admire or you yourself think that is very admiring.
Confused right? ever imagined why we always say “Thank you for your service” to Army people because they protect us by sacrificing their personal life.
They are putting value in our life in some way, they have something admiring in them and that is it, that brings a question for you, Are you respectable?
What it really takes to be respectable is to bring some kind of inspiration to people’s lives so that they can say that you bring some value to their lives.
Be a role model, a picture they want to see.
What significance does respect bring in your life?
Till now you must be asking “If respect is all about giving then what can it offer me or what is in it for me” hold your belt buddy because your definition of success is about to change.
Have you ever helped someone or just played a good part in someone’s life, what does it feel like, didn’t that feeling made your day, you feel respected by yourself and the universe.
That feeling is the greatest level of Honor and now just imagine your life where you have respect and honor within you, people love you and respect you.
Won’t your carrier grow like that, won’t you be able to be good in your relationships, won’t like to go out with your buddies when you know that you are bringing value to others and are respected by others?
Your life would be flying and you’ll be happy to fall because you know you have got people to catch you.
That is the significance respect brings in one’s life, you grow in every aspect of it like never before.
Dale Carnegie has almost in his every book talked about respect and what value do you bring in others life determines your respect in them.
His book which still is a masterpiece “How to win friends and influence people” is totally based on bringing value to other’s life and manipulating them to respect you and being loyal.
In one section he talks about giving importance to people and then you know what they will do next “they will respect you” genuine respect.
What it takes to Command respect
To Command great respect there are some traits which shall be in you so that you can have respect that you want in people towards you.
Politicians, Actors, Leaders, etc have a great amount of respect among people, ever wondered why do people follow them or respect them.
Ever wondered why they are so famous and are loved and honored by people so much because they have the crucial traits in them for being respected.
“Treat people the way you want to be treated. Talk to people the way you want to be talked to. Respect is earned, not given.”
Politicians, Actors, and leaders are so damn respected because they never live for themselves. Yeah, you heard it right.
These people are not ordinary people in terms of living their life.
I’m not saying that they are not living happily, no, they live life king size but that comes after.
The biggest reason why a particular person is respected or honored is that people love that person.
Now, Let’s come to the main point, POLITICIANS, ACTORS, LEADERS are people-centric.
They talk about people, they talk to people, they live for people (at least they show).
When you show people what they want to see, you become their favorite and when this happens they start to respect you.
When you go to a party, never ever talk about yourself or anything related to you unless somebody asks you to do so, always listen to others if you want to win them.
In “How to win friends and influence people” Dale has talked about the biggest secret about winning people and that secret obviously was being a good listener.
Listening to people is the first step in being people-centric (The Greatest step). The main motive is here to be people’s man.
Always be there to help them and guide them like an Alpha male. Talk in their favour and act in their favour too if necessary.
Once you are putting some value in their life, they start to respect you and obey you.
What if I tell you that gaining respect is a piece of cake and you can easily digest that piece, what if gaining respect or making people respect was just another taboo of this modern world.
Sadly, this is true and the reality of respect is simple as well as easy, You just need to apply some phenomena and the biggest phenomena to have respect is being Humble.
Humbleness and kindness can open the hardest doors for you which were really impossible to open before.
Let me tell you something about this universe. Once upon a time, there was a great wise man who was considered the biggest saint in the town.
He had a long curly beard with a pony and sometimes a bun. He was of average height and very skinny.
Everybody respected him because of his saintly qualities. He used to live under a small tree and used to eat only once a day or not even that but he was always available for help.
So, One day a very rich man came into the town and he started acting like he owns the town because he wanted to be the main-man of the town, he wanted people to respect him.
He wanted to be the king but no doubt he was failing, his desire to replace the saint was making him more desperate day by day to gain respect from people (real respect).
After a real hard time in town, he went to the Wise man to ask him that what is in him that makes people respect and love him so much.
After hearing this question wise man started laughing, with every moving second his laugh became more and more loud, so loud that the whole town came and surrounded the two men.
After some time when the rich man asked the wise man “Why are you laughing” the Wise man answered, “You are rich but you lack the kindness to be a greater part of this universe”.
The wise man further said ” This town doesn’t need me or you nor does it need my wiseness or your money, this town, and its people have enough in there life to move on but what it needs is just somebody who genuinely friends them, who is their’s”
After hearing these words the rich man starting crying and said “Oh Swami what shall I do when I want this town to be mine and the people to love me and respect me?”
The wise man said, “Treat your cow with tenderness and kindness, it will give you milk and treat it with harshness, it will kick you and run”.
The rich man got his answer and then, He was no more called a rich man but a wise man.
This story tells us how Humbleness and kindness can generate you respect and love. Look at the great leaders and how they were loved and respected by people by just being kind to them.
Be humble. that’s the way to go.
I’ve seen people turning from alpha’s to beta’s just from their desperation to achieve something, they believe in tit or by that but that’s wrong in many ways.
One is that you leave your principles behind and then slowly forget them, another is that you leave a very crucial part of your life in which you could have been happy and meditative.
And I’m not talking about desperation for materialistic things or goals, I am talking about every desperation you can imagine, it’s like that rich man he was not desperate for wealth,
He wanted people by his side and because of that he went more mad and alone and on the other hand that wise man had his dignity on his head, he had self-respect.
He was not desperate for respect, and this ora of his made people respect him, what I am trying to present is that first have your dignity in the first place.
Have self-respect in yourself and then expect it from others, respect yourself, your principles, and your words.
Only when the rich man realized what is necessary for him so that people can respect him, then he was a man of interest in the eyes of people as well as himself, and that is the whole point.
Don’t be desperate (at least don’t show it) Be good in yourself and respect yourself, can you imagine a man who doesn’t respect himself but expects people to do so, that’s you if you don’t possess dignity.
The biggest problem with modern days is that nobody wants to be left out and because of that they miss the basics of being the man they desire to be but you are not one of them and I know it.
Go workout, have a salon day, work hard, party hard, be happy and the most
Blunt with Circumstances
Ever imagined a situation comes and you are the most important and first-person people consider because they know that there is only one guy who can do something about this situation
That’s you. Feel good right? Now imagine a situation where you don’t know anything about what to do or not, everybody is looking forward to you and you start panicking,
Then suddenly the situation goes away, imagine how people are feeling about you let me tell you BAD.
This happened to me when I was in High school probably that situation was
way too scary for anybody. So the story goes like this- I was sitting in my class like an alpha male who everybody thought was the coolest dude in the school which I was not.
It was only a rumor and nothing else but still, I enjoyed what people thought of me but little did I know It was about the time that my noobie secret was about to reveal itself.
I was reading a very interesting book “Bel-Ami” a great book and you should read it(a must-read) its a story about a man who crawls on his success with the help of his womanizing traits.
Back to the story- I was reading and suddenly two girls came into the hall I was sitting in and they started to introduce themselves to me, As I was a bit over I started flirting.
And I kid you not after like 15 min of talk one of the girl fell off the bench and broke her toe then her friend started screaming “pick pick pick her you dumb ass pick her”
but I myself was in a big shock because of that sudden act.
I was stunned totally stun after some time our coach came in and picked her and took her to the medical office.
Now, who was a true alpha in this situation That coach obviously, and who was I, just a dude who thinks he is an alpha but turned out to be a dumb ass.
Later everybody got to know about this and my charisma was dusted now that’s another story that how I got it back.
So, what did this experience taught me, It taught me to ba blunt in every situation and act quickly especially when a girl is watching you. Hahaha just kidding.
So, doesn’t matter what the situation is just be blunt and a man of action, when there is a fire in your class, I want you to be the one saving everybody because that is what real alphas do
Go with a bang.
Being a role model
Who are you? What do have in you? What are doing for this world? and Why should I respect you?
These are not the questions I am asking you but these are the questions people will ask you.
Go through these questions and you will get an idea that what it takes to be respected by others.
If you are confused with your answers or you don’t have any answer
then it’s time for you to buckle up and start working on yourself.
People need somebody to be inspired by and somebody who can show them the way which is better for them.
They need a role model who is truly an inspiration to them, once you become that role model they start appreciating you and respecting you.
One of my friends was struggling in his office to get people interested in himself but he always was shown a backdoor by his colleagues.
One day we were at a bar and he asked me by curiosity “Man, I hate my office, they hate me” I said to him “they don’t hate you, they just don’t need you because you are of no benefit to them”.
Then he was enlightened by this saying and to this day he is the most bubbly dude in his office who is respected by everybody else, What he did? let me tell you…
He figured out that how can he be beneficial to other colleagues how can he inspire others. The answer was simple and quick “By working hard and helping others”.
He started helping others with their work out of the box and then everybody thought of him as a savior, if somebody missed their deadline he completed it, He used to compliment others.
Thus, he was putting a value on other’s life. I am not saying go say yes to every single person even when it is making you lack something.
Saying no is a part of Self respect but if help is possible then do it.
You are the Saviour, You are the inspiration and You are the Role Model.
How to get respect
Now you know what it takes to make people honour you and the traits/characteristics a person is required to gain respect but just for the sake of responsibility let us talk about
How to get respect are the things which are the point turners because now you know that what significance respect does bring in your life,
It’s not just honour it’s your personality, your attitude, way of talking, body language every aspect matters, and respect is the goal you desire, So let’s go together and get your goal.
“Respect other people’s feelings. It might mean nothing to you, but it could mean everything to them.”
Roy T. Bennett
Being a man of principles
What are the very common characteristics among them? It’s that they are all made by their principles.
He talks about living your life by your own script by making and following your principles.
Be a man who lives by his principles which should be the first priority of your life.
Those principles can be of any genre like you can start with “Don’t lie” or “Don’t stay awake after 10 pm” or you can go with big and heavy life-changing principles “Never think about past”
The Principles you make and follow will complete you regardless of your life situation and you will see life if more fun to live proactively.
People will be drawn towards you because of your principles of strict life. They will honor you.
Giving it to others
Have you seen a dog, Treat him like a dog and he will bite you but treat him like a living thing and he will love you more.
Whatever you want for yourself, first give it to others. This is a saying from a very old time.
You got my point, honor others and you’ll get it back but remember it should be genuine because you are the one who holds the charge. Straight forwardly Respect them.
This World is full of tensions and situations and To the people who still fight for their honor, who are willing to gain respect, who have the capability to gain traits to have respect, to us I say this is just the beginning.
• Respect and honour are one of the greatest aspects of human life.
• Respect comes from your life perspectives and how you react to things in general.
• What it really takes to be respectable is to bring some kind of inspiration to people’s lives so that they can say that you bring some value to their lives.
• To Command great honour there are some traits which shall be in you so that you can have respect that you want in people towards you.
• The biggest reason why a particular person is honored is that people love that person.
• Humbleness and kindness can open the hardest doors for you which were really impossible to open before.
• Be good in yourself and Respect yourself.
• People need somebody to be inspired by and somebody who can show them the way which is better for them.
• Be a man who lives by his principles which should be the first priority of your life.
• The Principles you make and follow will complete you regardless of your life situation and you will see life if more fun to live proactively.
• Honour others and you’ll get it back but remember it should be genuine because you are the one who holds the charge. Straight forwardly Respect them.
Hey there I am Paras, CEO and the founder of The Voguish Males. I have worked with top brands as a Model and a Photoshoot director at a very young age and after gaining some extrovert experience I decided to be a wellness coach and later got into media business. Now I am here to help you guys to be Successful and the best version of yourself in easy terms and at the same time maintaining the entertainment level of knowledge by giving you luxury, portraits, Body-building…blogs and anything which is related to your males individuality whether it be cars or the cologne which you never heard of because this is The Voguish Males “where everything is about men”.